For me, giving my whole heart to Josh while knowing that he did not love me the way a man loves a woman has always been devastating. We were best friends, but he never desired me, he never adored me, he never longed for me. […] No matter how much…
Category: Mixed Orientation Marriage
The 8 things I’d like to ask
I know…I have resigned my membership. So why do I care about the new Mormon church policy update that impacts LGBT Mormons? Why bother stressing about it if I don’t even belong or believe? Because this was my faith community for 46 years. Because it was how I was raised. Because…
Should “My Husband’s Not Gay” Air?
The president of GLAAD (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation), Sarah Kate Ellis, has argued that the new TLC show “My Husband’s Not Gay” should not air. She says This show is downright irresponsible. No one can change who they love, and, more importantly, no one should have to. A…
It Even Gets Better for Straight Spouses
Here’s an “It Gets Better” video made by a group of straight spouses in MOMs: OK, I can’t make the embed code work, so here’s the link to the youtube page: http://youtu.be/xkKoD1uVbrE The “about” page of the website of the group that produced the video, Straight Spouses, states We started…
Sunday in Outer Blogness: Gay parents edition!!!
This past week, a new study hit the press, showing that the children of failed mixed-orientation-marriages are at risk (compared to kids whose parents are in a stable relationship): It’s about current adults who grew up in mostly dysfunctional homes, where one of the parents may have had a homosexual…
Gay Mormon Fatherhood
A week ago, I wrote a post on my blog about coming out as a gay father. I mentioned strands of Mormon thinking which, I had come to realize, were woven throughout my psyche as a gay father, along with the strands of general homophobia, shame and self-loathing that are…
Mormon Beards redux
There was a heated discussion here a few months ago about mixed-orientation marriages. What doesn’t feel resolved for me is how to assess the patriarchy gay Mormon men engage in when they marry women. A couple aspects that seem obvious are the fact that the power of the priesthood runs…
To the One: Suppression and Undeviating Determination
This post is a companion piece to Mondays essay, To Young Men Only: The Gay Version. I had intended to write this back in January, but it never happened. I think it is appropriate to insert it here in this series of posts as a follow-on to last Fridays post…
Mormon Beards Exploring the Issues: Patriarchy and Duplicity
This is the fourth in a series of posts addressing issues relating to gay Mormon men marrying heterosexual women. The first post was published on my own blog as well as Main Street Plaza. The next two posts were published only on my blog (here and here), and beginning with…
Mormon Beards – Exploring the Issues: The Challenge
So I found out a friend from my freshman ward is doing the “I’m in the closet and I mess around with guys but I’m not gay and I plan on marrying a girl in the temple” thing. I feel really bad for him. Not much I can do, but…